Fear of Speaking:
Expressing your truth, or in other words, expressing what you really want to say, is unnerving for many people. There is a fear of speaking. We do not feel safe and secure expressing ourselves with our peers or seniors or elders. Students have difficulty approaching teachers or professors. Employees have difficulty speaking with their bosses. Even friends hold back their words, not knowing whether they should be frank or a bit tactful, while expressing the truth. Many times, you are wise after the event has passed, and then it dawns on you, what you should have said to the other person in words. But sadly, the moment is gone, and the words remain stuck in your throat. When it comes to public speaking, many of us are simply terrified.
Why do we fear speaking?
There are lot of fears which stop us from speaking.
• Fear of judgement: We fear being judged in a negative light, and not getting the acknowledgment, we think we deserve.
• Fear of being ridiculed: We feel we do not have enough knowledge and if we were to say something silly or factually wrong, we would be ridiculed.
• Fear of being rejected: We feel that if we were to ask for something and our request declined, we will just not be able to take rejection.
• Fear of antagonizing others: We feel that our speech might not be taken positively and the person might become hostile to us, and we might lose his favour.
• Fear of hurting others: We do not trust our own speech and feel that we might be rude, and end up hurting others.
• Fear of being misunderstood: We judge the capability of another person, to understand our point and with our preconceived notions, feel that we will be misunderstood.
• Fear of being shamed: There is also a terrifying fear that we might be humiliated for our expression.
When we choke our own voice because of all these fears, it leads to physical ailments like sore throat, cough, cold, mouth ulcers, and thyroid problems, and emotional problems like frustration, helplessness, anger, low self-esteem and negativity.
It is our birth right to express ourselves. To liberate our voice, we must release all the fears associated with speaking. And we can begin to do so, by understanding the divine lessons of Vishudha Chakra. Vishuddhi-Chakra, the fifth chakra located at the throat region above the collar bone, is a 16-petalled Chakra associated with self-expression and our communication ability, which includes both speaking and listening. The term Vishuddhi means extreme purity and it is the purification centre of the body. One must balance and align the lower chakras before the fifth throat chakra is balanced. So only after releasing fears of survival in the Muladhar, releasing the fear of not being good enough in the Swadhithan, releasing the fear of powerlessness in the Manipur, releasing the fear of not being loved in Anahata, can one open the throat chakra to be expressive and verbalize desires, needs and opinions.
How to release the fears of speaking and start expressing your inner truth.
• You must look at your fears of being judged, ridiculed or shamed, and slowly release the fears after knowing and accepting your uniqueness. You are a unique human being, and there is no one else like you. You must totally accept yourself to begin to open your throat chakra.
• Look and understand your fears of antagonizing others. Know that there is no need to make any comparisons with other people. There is no one higher than you, or lower than you. We all our souls, who have come here to fulfil our life purpose. Communication happens between equals, and speak from your soul to another soul. All souls are equally accomplished.
• Trust your inner Guru, and surrender to it. It will give you wisdom and a sense of discretion of how and when to talk.
• Be in the here and now, when you are communicating. Do not let your perceptions cloud your judgement about another person’s ability to understand your point. Trust another person to fully understand your expression.
• Do not like anger, rage, helplessness, hurt or ego flavour your speech Speak only using your mind (intelligence), and throat.
• Be confident in knowing that you can make worthwhile contributions to conversation. Take time each day to be aware of your opinions and feelings so you can adequately convey them to others. Read books and just be aware of the surroundings and environment and keep yourself updated of the latest news and happenings in your society, company, country and the world.
Watch this video to learn how to Speak your truth without fear: Complete Lessons of Vishuddha Chakra – Part 1: https://youtu.be/ZH3gp9FFPqE