If you want to be happy and content in life, you need to learn to accept things as they are. Often we live in self-absorbed existence, thinking our opinions and experiences are the most authentic. In this case, acceptance – whether it is of a truth (no matter how unpleasant), a change, criticism or negative feedback, and emotions is the first step in clearing up all illusion and seeing the reality for what it is. You must learn to accept that truth may not always be what you desire. Many times, failure in life will open your eyes to facing and accepting the reality.
Understand that accepting things passively doesn’t mean that you should not try and fix the situation when something goes wrong. In fact, acceptance is the first stage in the process of fixing what you want to fix. Remember that there is no point in fighting reality. It’s easy to wish that things were different, that they were what you want them to be. But having the courage to accept and embrace the truth will give you the peace and courage to move on and rebuild your life.
If you refuse to accept things as they stand, you are in danger of unbalancing the Ajna Chakra, the main seat of intelligence, decision making and intuition in your body. Located between your eyebrows, the Ajna Chakra is the energy centre that governs self-reflection, visualization and discretion. An imbalance in this Chakra may manifest as constant headaches, sinus problems, anger issues, confusion and vision problems. On the other hand, a healthy Ajna Chakra provides power to command, excellent intuition and decision making skills and the attitude of abundance.
Accepting things as they are will free you to live a real life. No matter how much you may want to turn away from uncertainty and fear, it is natural that you will have to face them sometime in your life. Understand that the only thing constant in life is change and that nothing is permanent and everything changes with time. When you cultivate an unconditional acceptance without resisting the reality of the change and embrace the truth, you will definitely be happier and more peaceful within.
The first part of this process is to accept and make peace with your past. This will save you the energy that you will otherwise waste in wishing things were different. The second thing to do is finding solutions instead of complaining. The final and most important step is to practice letting go, so that you can appreciate what you have and make space for positivity and beauty to come into your life.
There are other ways in which you can balance your Ajna Chakra and alter your mind-set about acceptance of reality. Wearing healing items such as Rudraksha and gemstones and meditating on the Ajna chakra with its beeja mantra OM is an excellent way of doing this.
Another way is to make and recite ‘Affirmations’ such as:
‘I accept people and situations exactly as they are now’
‘It is not my will, it is not your will, it is Thy Will’
‘I accept, I release ego, I Seek Truth’.