The act that allows us to deal with all situations effectively in life is acceptance. When things do not go our way, we can fight with the outside world for as long as we like or we can accept it with gratitude and faith and make peace with it or accept and modify it with innate willpower. We can choose to be whiners or heroic. Real acceptance is not a compromise with whatever we are facing at present. It is actually a conscious choice to drop every resistance and every dis-empowering emotion to whatever is coming in the present.
Meaning of Acceptance
Acceptance isn’t about liking or approving of what has happened. It is about surrendering to the flow of life and allowing it to flow.
Why we cannot Accept
Our first impulse is to resist what we do not like or what seems to obstruct our path. Resistance comes from mistrust in what is happening. It is about a deep rooted belief that life is not easy and one must struggle along the way.
Consequences of Non-Acceptance
We get stressed, fearful, anxious, angry and develop limiting beliefs like “I am not lucky”, “I have to struggle”, “People do not support me” etc due to the gap between what is happening and what we want and these disempowering emotions make us stuck and cloud our thoughts. We feel victimised, threatened and powerless against the circumstances and thus fail to make any positive change. Instead we attract further problems due to these limiting beliefs.
So what is the Truth?
Ultimately, acceptance is about trusting yourself to rise to whatever occasion presents itself to you. It is about being open to ALL of life, knowing that whatever is happening is for your ultimate good. It is about knowing that life throws challenges to evolve you to your highest perfection.
Accept — then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it … This will miraculously transform your whole life. — Eckhart Tolle
Relax and accept the situation exactly as it is. This will help you stay away from the fearful emotions and allow your natural intelligence to see the situation in the right light and get the correct perspective of it and find the solution. Acceptance helps you to Act and not React to the situation.